What my child is NOT missing out on by NOT being in School



Dear non-home schooling parents,

What my child is NOT missing out on by NOT being in School

Despite the evidence to suggest that later schooling is better for children than starting school early and the evidence to show that home educated children do better in their studies compared to their school attending counterparts, as a home schooling parent we still encounter the odd remark from fellow parents asking “is your child not missing out on [fill in your own blanks] by not going to school?”

To those non-home schooling parents: Thank you for taking an interest in my child’s education. Please find below a list of things that my child is not missing out on by not being in school.

  • My child is not missing out on the widespread bullying that is currently plaguing inner city schools, to the point that it is beginning to cost young people their lives.
  • My child is not missing out on the immense pressure placed on young children to learn complex spelling and arithmetic at such a young age, when they’re little brains are still developing.
  • My child is not missing out on the factory style teaching that is focused solely on test results and league tables that it takes away the human element of teaching good character, a moral outlook and the passing down of knowledge as opposed to just teaching information
  • My child is not subjected to the immense peer pressure in schools to look and dress a certain way, to take up smoking / drugs, to have the latest gadgets and games, and to be part of a clique or a gang, to name just a few.
  • My child is not missing out on the extraordinary amount of homework that young children are given even after having spent a full day of learning in school.
  • My child is not missing out on having to learn at a set pace set by the curriculum and the teachers. My child is able to learn and develop at their own pace, which is much better for their over all development.
  • My child is not missing out on socialisation. Socialisation happens everywhere, not just in schools.
  • My child is not missing out on not being able to see their Mum and Dad for long hours of the day, sometimes ranging from 8:30am – 6:30pm for households where both parents have full time jobs.
  • My child is not missing out on having to take holidays in peak holiday seasons when holiday prices are rocket high, only because their school will not allow them discretionary leave for family holidays during term time.
  • Most of important of all, my child is not missing out on being just that … a child. Children are meant to be children. These days children are not given the chance to be themselves. Let them be their own little person. Let them enjoy their childhood before they enter the high pressured environment of schools.

homeschooling-will-my-kids-miss-outThere are many good reasons why some parents choose not to send their children to school ranging from medical reasons to religious / cultural reasons. Please try to understand those reasons before you decide to judge us.

There are well over 36,000 children in the UK that are home educated and this number is steadily rising as people realise the benefits of home education verses conventional schooling.

Just as it is you prerogative to send your child to a mainstream school or a private school, it is our prerogative to home educate our child.

Wishing you all the best.

Yours Truly,


Umm and Abu Zaynah

Home Schooling Parents

11 thoughts on “What my child is NOT missing out on by NOT being in School”

  1. I agree with this post about the benefits home schooling, and there is a lot of bullying and intense peer and other pressures in many secondary schools. But home education IS sometimes a cover for neglect, abuse, forced marriage, child exploitation and other real dangers and pitfalls.

  2. Love this! Sums up home ed perfectly. My children are free to be whatever they want, whenever they want and they are not going to be turned into little zombies that can’t think for themselves.

  3. Umm Maryam Zaynah Ali well said! Thank you for posting, you’re giving me a nudge into the direction I know I need to take for my awesome son who has aspergers and is struggling so much with the social aspect of school, plus the pressure to learn in a way that doesn’t suit his unique brain xx

  4. Salam sister…I’m thankful for a post like this as it’s useful for those of us that don’t have the confidence to challenge those that stick to the broken system. The biggest problem for people is to be ignorant and brainwashed into thinking the system is fine and carry on without question. My biggest fear was seeing the car headlamps but smiling along waiting for the crash. Thankfully my stubbornness won the day despite a huge strain on my marriage. My wife took 2 days to see the enormous benefits and now has an even closer more loving relationship with the girls alhamdullilah. Inshallah all goes well and thankfully there is slowly but surely an increasing awakening and more posts like this can only help. A note to prospective home educating parents. ..you don’t need to be a teacher and you have carte blanche to teach them whatever you feel will serve them best in this world and the next.

  5. I can’t think of anything positive that my children will be missing out on but a million things they will be gaining from not going to mainstream school. They’ll be free to be who they want to be and fully supported by people who love and care for them ❤

  6. As- Salam, I have always been interested in homeschooling my children. However just dont have the confidence if i will be able to manage. Love this post. PLEASE Would you write a future post about what kind of quality a parent would need, what kind of planning is involved in teaching your own children at home. I am very interested to learn more about how its done..JazakhaAllah.

  7. I agree fully with the above. Homeschooling my kids has made me appreciate them as individuals. Each child has his/ her strengths and weaknesses, I am able to explore better and guide them to reach their full potentials. My kids have also learnt to appreciate the many facets that make me who I am.
    I love spending time with my children, seeing them developed from little people into big people. We have become closer as a family, are able to discuss concerns openly, share thoughts and ideas and to generally learn and grow together.
    I went through the school system in this country. I sat in lessons I hated, learnt things I’ve never had to use or had interest in learning. I was gauche and awkward, never fitting into any group though I tried hard.
    I didn’t want this for my kids.
    At home they’re free to learn at a pace that suits them. To learn things that interest them and find ways to learn that suits their way of learning.

    1. Jzk sis Umm Khadija for your comment. Its comments like these that make me confident in being headstrong with continuing to homeschool our daughter.

      Was Salam

      Umm Zaynah

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