Category Archives: Advice to the Youth

30 Days, 30 Deeds – Ramadan Challenge


islamopedia_41.pngThis Ramadan we at Islamopedia and the Wednesday Circle challenge you to complete 30 different good deeds for each day of the holy month. The idea being to encourage and instil new deeds in our lives that we can carry forward even after Ramadan is finished. And to make it even easier, we have done the hard work for you and made a list of 30 deeds that you can complete in this month.

Are you ready to take on the challenge?

wednesday_circle_whiteThe task is simple. Each day in Ramadan, take one deed from the list below and complete it. Once complete make a note of it so you don’t forget which deed you have done. The next day take another deed and so on until the end of the month. By the end of the month you should have a list of 30 deeds that you have completed in the month that you may not have otherwise done. Keep the list to hand and carry on doing those same deeds in the months after Ramadan as well insha Allah.

Simple as that.

Feel free to share with us how you get on to encourage the goodness and also encourage others to take part by sharing this challenge with friends and family.

Feel free to add to the list of good deeds or suggest your own deeds as well. Continue reading 30 Days, 30 Deeds – Ramadan Challenge

Confessions of a Serial Cheater III – Marriage


‘O young people! Whoever among you is able to marry, should marry, and whoever is not able to marry, is recommended to fast, as fasting diminishes his carnal desires.’

[Sahih Al Bukhari]

Our parents tried to do right by us. They married us young to avoid us falling into sin. They tried their utmost to keep us on the straight and narrow.

Her parents took her to Egypt and found her a good decent man to marry. He was well educated and had a good job back home. When he came here he studied and found himself a decent job earning a decent wage. She had everything going for her. She was being looked after and taken care of, she had her freedom and independence, she had everything a girl could want or need. Yet she still felt she this desire and need to be with ‘him’.

My parents found me a good wife. They searched and searched until the found the right one. She was young, pretty, and had good Akhlaq and character. She was from a noble family. She ticked all the right boxes. When I saw her, I fell in love instantly. It felt like a match made in heaven. We got married and instead of living in our ‘happily ever after’, I felt the need to stay in contact with ‘her’ and continue this rendezvous’ whilst being married to my wife.

The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) encouraged us to marry young. The main reason for this is so that we can stay away from the haram and be with the opposite gender in a way that is halal and acceptable to Allah (SWT). But in order for this to work one must start the marriage on a clean slate. One must leave behind any baggage that they carry from previous relationships and make a firm commitment to remain faithful to the one that they have married.

If you are a young man or woman embarking on this sacred bond of marriage, please make sure that anything that you have from you past life that can jeopardise your marriage remains in the past. There is no need to take the baggage with you. Leave it at the departure lounge and free yourself from it for it will bring you nothing but your downfall in the future if you take it with you. Leave the past in the past, draw a line in the sand, and make a fresh new start with the one that you chosen to make yours.

Our problem was that she didn’t let go of the baggage and neither did I. We both thought that we could remain ‘friends’.

It was a disaster waiting to happen. And disaster did strike. Not once, not twice, but many times during our 15 year marriage.

 

©Islamopdia – Written anonymously ‘Confessions of a Serial Cheater’ is a collaboration between Islamopedia and others to raise awareness of the issue of infidelity in marriage. Although the characters and the narrative are fictional, the story is based on true events and reflects the pain that many women (and men) have to suffer due to the selfish actions of one partner. The purpose of this series is to stop anyone engaged in such activity before it’s too late and deter anyone thinking of committing such a sin before they fall into it. NB: Anyone having trouble in their relationships should seek professional help from qualified scholars and counsellors.

Confessions of a Serial Cheater I – Life as He Knew It


“The servant will continue to be tried until he is left walking upon the earth without any sin.”

[Sunan al-Tirmidhī 2398, Grade: Sahih]

It’s 4:30pm on a Friday afternoon. I have just come off the phone to a counselling service. I never thought I would ever need the assistance of a counselling service in my life. I always saw myself as a jolly old fellow who didn’t let the worries of the world get on top of him. But this was different. This wasn’t a worry that was bothering me. This was an addiction that was killing me. Killing me inside, slowly. Killing my soul and breaking down all of the defence barriers that it has to ward off such evils from oneself.

On the way home that evening there was only one thought on my mind. That thought was my wife. The only woman in my life that has stood besides me through all of my trials, through sun, rain and snow, through thick and thin. She has remained faithful to me in spite of all the pain that I have caused her. I love her dearly but I fear the day that she decides she has had enough and decides to leave me. That will be the day that the world ends for me as there will be no purpose to live any longer. What good is a life without your lover beside you, your partner being there to hold your hands, your companion to share your days and nights with? Continue reading Confessions of a Serial Cheater I – Life as He Knew It

Small Deeds that are Overlooked


small-deedsConclusion from yesterday’s Wednesday Circle:

Find one Small Deed that you can carry out on a daily basis for the rest of the Year and make a determined effort to complete that deed every day.

The Prophet ﷺ said, “The most beloved of deeds to Allah are those that are most consistent, even if it is small”. [Bukhari and Muslim]

The Deed can be anything from reciting a particular Dua or Adhkar every day to trying to pray all your Sunna prayers every day to reciting a page of the Qur’an every day or anything else. The key is to ensure that it is ‘Small’ and easy enough for you to be able to carry out on a daily basis.

Stuck for which small deeds you can do? Not to worry. Check out our list of 99 Small Deeds from the attachment in the link below. Choose any one of those deeds that is easy for you and complete it every day for the next year.

https://islamopedia.co.uk/2017/01/04/diy-make-your-own-box-of-good-deeds/

Remember,  it’s all about the ‘Small Deeds that are Overlooked’.

#learn #act #share

Reflection: Celebrity Deaths in 2016


2016 will be remembered as the year in which many famous celebrities passed away. Some reports suggest that up to 50+ famous people died this year. And even though we don’t know any of these people personally, the fact that they lived in the public domain and were ‘famous’ means that their death still hits us a little, particularly if we were a fan of that person.

This impact is felt more so when that public personality happens to be a Muslim, the likes of the boxer Muhammad Ali or the singer Junaid Jamshed or the philanthropist Abdul Sattar Edhi , whose deaths touched the hearts of millions of people worldwide.

However, the questions that we have to ask ourselves is, are we going to learn anything from these deaths? Or we are we just going to read about it in the press and on social media and then let it pass without any thought or pondering? Continue reading Reflection: Celebrity Deaths in 2016

Review – The Savvy Muslim Youth Manifesto


Title: The Savvy Muslim Youth Manifesto  savvy-muslim-youth-manifesto-cover-1880x2500

Author: Amina Edota

Published by: www.YouthlyHub.com

As far as manifestos go, the Savvy Muslim Youth Manifesto is one of a kind. It’s not full of the bold promises that never materialise in manifestos devised by political parties. Nor is it full of exaggerated claims and boastfulness found in manifestos of large organisations and companies. Rather it has within it gems from the Qur’an and Sunnah and practical tips to help navigate the personal and social spheres of our lives.

The 11 point Manifesto covers topics that range from being a True Servant of Allah and Life Long Learning to Managing Your Time and Involving Yourself in the Community. Written in an easy and readable language, the Manifesto is designed to empower us to live with purpose, passion, purity, patience, persistence, positivity and inner peace. It is designed as a guide to teach us how to live a productive and purposeful life. Continue reading Review – The Savvy Muslim Youth Manifesto

Do Good Box – Help


HELP – ACTION ALERT

Having been inspired by the ‘Do Good Box’ in the picture below, I would like to set up my own ‘Do Good Box’ for the home, my local masjid and the Wednesday Circle. I would like to have within it 365 good deeds that people can pick up everyday and try to complete it within the day.

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In order to do this I need to collate 365 good deeds that we can do as Muslims, based on a specific Ayah of the Qur’an or a Hadith of the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him).

This is where I need your HELP. Please can you share in the comments box on our Facebook Page  any small actions from the Qur’an and Sunnah that I can include in my ‘Do Good Box’.

I will of course share the end results with you all.

Thanking you in advance.

JazakAllahu Khayr wa Assalamu ‘Alaykum

PS: Please share this post with others that might be able to help collate the list of deeds.

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‎25 Ways to Enter Jannah (Paradise)


‎25 Ways to Enter Jannah (Paradise)

“We all want to enter Jannah but are we sincerely striving for it? There are multiple ways to attain the pleasure of Allah SWT and enter His Jannah. Allah SWT has made it easy for us to enter His Jannah but some of us forget this due to an ‘attachment’ to this temporary worldly life!

Following are some hadiths which will show us 25 ways or good deeds to enter the Jannah. Remember, these are not the ‘only’ 25 ways and there should be ‘sincerity’ and ‘consistency’ in these acts to get Jannat-ul-Firdause InshaAllah :)

Read more at:

‎25 Ways to Enter Jannah (Paradise)

We at the Wednesday Circle have been discussing the 25 Ways to Jannah based on the article above.

We hope that you enjoy the video that we’ve made on the same topic, especially the bloopers at the end 🙂

Was Salam

Abu Zaynah

Wednesday Circle | 15 Second Reminders | 03: The Qualities of the Hypocrites


Wednesday Circle | 15 Second Reminders | 03: The Qualities of the Hypocrites

Yesterday at the Circle we concluded the brief explanation of verses 1-20 of Surah Al-Baqarah.

The first 5 verses of Surah Al Baqarah deal with the Believers (Muttaqun), the next 2 verses deal with the Disbelievers (Kafiroun), and the next 13 verses deal with the Hypocrites (Munafiqun) and these are the worst of people.

Continue reading Wednesday Circle | 15 Second Reminders | 03: The Qualities of the Hypocrites

Dhikr – Easy on the Tongue, Heavy on the Scale


Dhikr – Your Easy Path to Paradise

O you who believe! Remember Allah with much remembrance. [Qur’an 33:41]

The People of Paradise will not regret except one thing alone: the hour that passed them by and in which they made no remembrance of Allah. [Al-Bayhaqi]

Dhikr, or the Remembrance of Allah, is a very important aspect of our Deen. It encapsulates the essence of worship and should form a key part of all of our actions. But not only this, the rewards for Dhikr are so immense and lofty that it provides us with an easy way to multiply our rewards in our ‘bank accounts’ in Heaven.

Dhikr provides for us a means with which our path to paradise can be simpler and easier, provided that we are fulfilling our obligations (Fara-id). A few examples of Adhkar that are simple on the tongue but heavy on the scales are noted below.

Continue reading Dhikr – Easy on the Tongue, Heavy on the Scale