Confessions of a Serial Cheater VI – The Consequences II

and those who do not invoke any other god along with Allah, and do not kill a person whom Allah has given sanctity, except rightfully, nor do they fornicate; and whoever does it, shall face the recompense of his sin,

[Qur’an 25:68]

The previous entry focused on the consequences in the word and the things that I lost. But it is also worth noting the spiritual consequences of such actions and the punishment reserved in the hereafter for those like me, unless of course we repent and seek the forgiveness from those that we have hurt.

It sends a shudder up my spine when I read these now, yet I should have read these then and taken heed. My only comfort is in the hope that maybe, one day, before I die I can make amends for the wrongs I have done and seek forgiveness from the loved ones that I have hurt.

Imam ibn Al Qayyim summarised the spiritual consequences of Zina very well when he said:

Zina encompasses all the characteristics of evil: lack of religious commitment, loss of piety, loss of chivalry, lack of protective jealousy (gheerah). You will not find any adulterer who is pious, or keeps his promises, or speaks truthfully, or is a good friend, or has complete protective jealousy towards his family. Treachery, lying, betrayal, lack of modesty, lack of awareness that Allah is always watching, lack of chivalry, loss of protective jealousy from the heart – these are the effects and implications of zina.

Also remember the statements of the Prophet (peace be upon him) when he said:

An adulterer is not a believer at the time of committing adultery.” [Bukhari & Muslim]

When someone fell in adultery, faith leaves his heart and overshadows him but if he extricates himself; his faith will, be restored again.” [Abu Dawud]

Whoever fornicates or drinks wine, Allah takes off his faith from him as a man takes a shirt off over his head.” [Al Hakim]

And this is apparent when you are committing the an act of Zina because at the time when you are doing it, your heart is never at ease. There is always this anxiety about you. There is this overshadowing shame, guilt, anxiety and a whole mix of emotions that makes the experience of being with the other person unworthy.

This happens because that atom’s weight of faith that you had in you, had been lifted away from you when you were involved in that haram relationship and all those unlawful moments that you shared in the company of that person.

And yes some of us lowly people are able to supress these feelings temporarily for that momentary pleasure, but as soon as you leave that situation, the feelings come crushing back and no matter what you do, they are always there haunting you until the end.

Ask anyone who is in an extra-martial relationship whether they have any peace in their heart, and if they are honest, they will tell you that they do not, because they are constantly pulling their heart from one person to another, from good to bad, from happy to sad and heart with such turmoil can not have any peace.

Having mentioned the spiritual consequences, what then of the person who does not leave this sin and dies in a state of committing Zina or in a state of being in an extra-martial relationship, what will become of them in the next life?

We have already mentioned previously the punishment for them that the Prophet (peace be upon him) saw when he went on the bless journey of Al Isra wal Mi’raj in which he saw people eating from foul meat despite having nice fresh meat to eat beside them, and upon being asked who these were, he (peace be upon him) was told that:

“These are the men from your Community who had an excellent, lawful wife at home and who would go and see a foul woman and spend the night with her; and the women who would leave her excellent, lawful husband to go and see a foul man and spend the night with him.” 

And in the In the lengthy hadith about the punishment of the grave, as narrated by Samurah (may Allah be pleased with him), it says:

“So we went on, and came to something like a tannoor (a kind of oven, lined with clay, usually used for baking bread).  – I think the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said, in that oven there was much noise and voices. The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) added:  – We  looked into it and saw naked men and  women. A flame of fire was reaching them from underneath, and when it reached them, they cried out loudly. I asked them, ‘Who are these?’ … The naked men and women whom you saw in a structure that resembled an oven are the adulterers and adulteresses.” [Bukhari]

And Allah (SWT) mentions in the Qur’an that:

and those who do not invoke any other god along with Allah, and do not kill a person whom Allah has given sanctity, except rightfully, nor do they fornicate; and whoever does it, shall face the recompense of his sin,’ [Qur’an 25:68]

Would you want to be the one from whom Allah removes his/her faith because of his/her wrong actions? Would you like to be the one who eats from foul and putrid meat in the presence of good and wholesome meat? Do you want to be the one who is thrown in a pot naked and unclothed and cooked as a punishment for what you did?

If you or someone you know is involved in a life of Zina, fornication or adultery, then please consider the above and leave this evil sin for the sake of Allah (SWT). LEAVE IT and LEAVE IT NOW!

Believe me that if you leave it for His sake, then He will surely replace it with something better insha Allah. It may not be here and now, and it may not even be in this world, but you will surely find your reward with Allah (SWT), as that is His promise.

I only wish that I had the courage to leave my sin before now and before all the damage was caused. I pray that Allah (SWT) helps us all along the way on this Journey that we are on and that He protects us all from falling into the sin of Zina and all other major sins – Ameen.


©Islamopdia – Written anonymously ‘Confessions of a Serial Cheater’ is a collaboration between Islamopedia and others to raise awareness of the issue of infidelity in marriage. Although the characters and the narrative are fictional, the story is based on true events and reflects the pain that many women (and men) have to suffer due to the selfish actions of one partner. The purpose of this series is to stop anyone engaged in such activity before it’s too late and deter anyone thinking of committing such a sin before they fall into it. NB: Anyone having trouble in their relationships should seek professional help from qualified scholars and counsellors.